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One of the reasons that Human Design deeply resonated with me is because after years of health coaching clients, I found at that the root – the true root – of their dis-ease was stress.

Whether you’re tired all the time, have digestive issues, or seeking balance, when you peel back the layers to get to the root cause, it’s always stress.

We experience different kinds of stress - physical stress, mental stress, emotional stress – but your immune system response doesn’t differentiate between what kind of stress you’re experiencing – your nervous system is triggered and, in a flight, or fight mode.

Stress manifests differently in each of us. Our bio-individuality kicks in.

We’re all unique – different genetics, environment, daily habits, and how our energy functions – and a combination of all those things adds yet another layer of uniqueness.

Today, I’m going to focus on how our energy functions to better understand stress through the lens of Human Design Types how each Type processes stress. I'm going to share practical tips on how each Type can better understand and manage stress.

Let’s start with a quick overview of the five different Human Design Types, and then I’ll do a deep dive into each one of them.

So, first, of course, we have Manifestors. We know when we’re in the presence of a Manifestor. We can feel their commanding presence. Manifestors need freedom and autonomy; they experience stress when feeling restricted and misunderstood.

Generators must focus on things that they’re passionate about. They experience stress from doing things that aren't interesting to them. When they overcommit themselves and must do things that don't bring them joy, they get frustrated. They need to focus on the things that bring them immense satisfaction.

Manifesting Generators feel stressed when they have too many obligations. While Manifesting Generators have the most energy and are the best at multi-tasking, they can still over extend themselves. They need to let go of the things that no longer interest them.

Famously, Projectors need rest. But it’s a little more than that. What Projectors need is to prioritize the work that comes with recognition. When Projectors spend energy on things without recognition, i.e., an invitation it’s an inefficient and ineffective use of their energy that will lead to bitterness and burnout.

Reflectors, with the openness in their Human Designs experience stress by absorbing the energy from their environment. They need alone time to recalibrate and recharge.

That’s the high-level overview, now, let's take a deep dive through each of the Types.

Manifesters can’t be told what to do. when they’re in a situation where they are, they’re triggered. Their stress is triggered when there's a lack of freedom – when they’re in situations where they feel like they’re being controlled, when others interfere, and when they feel pressured to conform to societal expectations.

Their strategy is to initiate so, they need the freedom and autonomy to be able to do that. When they’re given the space to initiate, they’ll feel their signpost of anger – the emotion they experience when they’re not in alignment with their design.

So, here are three tips for Manifestors to understand and manage their stress:

1. Give yourself independent time daily to focus on things that you'd like to initiate
2. Set clear boundaries with others about this need that you have for independent time
3. Find opportunities where you can initiate and where that initiation will be accepted

An exercise in self-observation with non-judgement for Manifestors could be to identify areas in your life where you're currently feeling restricted. How can you create more freedom in those areas?

Generators’ need to do things they’re passionate about. Their stress is triggered when they do things that they don’t enjoy doing. This could look like being in a job that you hate, doing things out of obligation, guilt or people-pleasing, and overcommitting yourself. These are surefire ways for you to feel frustration, which is the signpost emotion when you're not in alignment with design.

Three tips for Generators to understand and manage their stress are:

1. Say no to things that don't excite you. This may sound harsh, but you can so kindly and isn’t it worth it to not waste your energy and instead spend it on something that does light you up? That’s how you put your best self forward!
2. Prioritize work that makes you feel engaged and fulfilled – things that make you feel excited – what you’re passionate about!
3. Practice activities that relieve stress for you every day - intentional movement or exercise, anything creatively that you enjoy doing like cooking, drawling, knitting – things that will calm your nervous system.

An exercise in self-observation with non-judgement for Generators is to take inventory of the things that you're currently doing so out of obligation that you don’t enjoy? What will bring you satisfaction – the signature feeling that you’re in alignment with your design – instead?

We know that Manifesting Generators have the most energy and as such, are the best at multi-tasking. They have a lot of different things they’re interested in, and those interests can change - frequently.

Like Generators, Manifesting Generators can be triggered by being overcommitted. But for them, the overcommitment commonly comes from holding on to things they’re no longer interested in. As they develop new interests, they need to let go of things that no longer light them up because hanging on to these things is a surefire path to burn out. It stifles their energy.

So, three practical tips for Manifesting Generators to understand and manage their stress are:

1. Embrace all your ever-changing and varied interests but be mindful of what your limitations are. You may have the most energy of the five Types, but you’re also human and not exempt from burnout.
2. Engage with the things that that bring you flexibility. The thing about Manifesting Generators is that you’re agile – you move with speed and agility. Embrace this!
3. Find a balance between managing all your different interests. And remember that you don’t have to do everything on your own - delegate what you can. The ability to delegate is critical to the success of Manifesting Generators.

Your exercise in self-observation with non-judgement, Manifesting Generator, is to ask yourself, “What are the things that I’m hanging on to that I used to be interested in, but if I’m being honest with myself, I’m really not anymore.”

Now, Projectors, my fellow Projectors. We know all about how Projectors need to prioritize rest – and that’s true! We do, as so the other Non-Sacrals as well.

But if we’re being honest, our stress levels are triggered not only by overworking ourselves, but by working without proper recognition.

The Projector Strategy is to wait for invitations. So, when taking action without recognition, that means there was no invitation. Recognition is an invitation. And when you act without the invite, you are going to exhaust yourself into burnout, pushing too hard to be seen.

That being said, balancing our energy is critical, so here are some practical strategies for Projectors to understand and manage your stress: 1. Schedule regular down times and rest periods. One thing that absolutely works for me is to have a set bedtime every night and get up at the same time every day – and that includes weekends too.

As someone who’s had a history struggling with sleep, I always tell my clients who also struggle with sleep that just like how parents have to sleep train their babies, you need to sleep train yourself. You have to teach your body and train it to know when to expect rest time.

2. Surround yourself with people who recognize you and who appreciate your wisdom and your insights.

One of my all-time favorite bands, Oasis, just announced a reunion after 15 years. One of my favorite songs of theirs is “Live Forever.” And in its lyrics are the words, “we see things they'll never see….” Those words are words written by a Projector, though I doubt he knows he’s a Projector, but those are Projector lyrics if I ever heard any!

So, Projector, we want to surround ourselves with people who recognize and appreciate the wisdom we bring by “seeing things they'll never see” -- the insights that we bring to the table.

3. Focus on those invitations and bring your energy to where you’re welcomed, where you’ll be received and recognized.

Don’t force the invitation, wasting your energy seeking validation.

So, the self-observation without judgment exercise for Projectors is to reflect on if you’re following your Strategy, and waiting for invitations, or are you wasting your energy, and using is inefficiently on things where you aren’t recognized.

Reflectors are very open with no Defined energy centers, so they experience stress when absorbing all the energy in the environment they're in. Chaotic environments and emotional turbulence are extremely stressful.

So, practical strategies for Reflections to understand and manage your stress are:

1. Alone time. Remove yourself from the environments that drain you.
2. Create a reflective practice journaling or meditating. Gift yourself the time and space to process the emotions that you're feeling, especially so you can differentiate the emotions that are yours versus what you’re picking up externally.
3. Put yourself in environments – places and spaces that feel healthy, that bring you peace and that are supportive of your well-being.

So, your self-observation with non-judgement exercise is to carve out alone time so you can evaluate the impact that your current environment is having on your stress levels – this includes your home life, your work life, your social circles, including social media. Before we close, let’s do a quick recap:

Manifestors: you experience stress when you feel like you’re being controlled, and your agency is being restricted. Schedule independent time, set clear boundaries, and engage in opportunities where you can initiate.

Generators: you experience stress when you’re overcommitted and doing things that you don’t like doing. Learn to say no and prioritize doing what makes you feel energized and fulfilled.

Manifesting Generators: you experience stress when you have too many things on your plate. Let go of things that no longer interest you and learn to delegate – you don’t have to do everything yourself.

Projectors: we experience stress by working without proper recognition, which leads to overworking, burnout and bitterness. Focus on the invitations that come your way and surround yourself with people who appreciate the wisdom and insights you bring to the table.

Reflectors: you experience stress when you're in chaotic environments and when you don't have enough alone time. Remove yourself from those environments and replace them with environments that are healthy and peaceful, while prioritizing alone time for reflection and to allow your nervous system to calm down!

I encourage you to really ponder about your natural energy. Are you working with it, meaning, living in flow, or are you working against it, creating unnecessary stress and tension?

Are you aligning with and supporting your energetic self?

It’s all about being mindful, which a word that is thrown around a lot, but what does that actually mean? Like everything, mindfulness looks different for each of us.

Here’s two ways I’m currently practicing mindfulness:

1. I wanted to develop a more consistent meditation practice and committed to meditating for 30 days in August, and I did. I do a short meditation, 5-10 min, in the morning, and a longer meditation, 10-20 min at bedtime. It’s had a tremendous impact on regulating my nervous system. It’s been instrumental in helping me control how I react to things – both the things I have control over and the things I don’t. I have more clarity which has helped me lean more into following my Splenic Authority.

2. The other practice I developed started on January 1st. I started a daily journaling practice that I shared in Episode 284: A Daily Ritual to Develop A Positive Mindset. In that episode, I detailed a journaling exercise that I do every night before my bedtime meditation. I’m proud to say I’ve done this journaling exercise every single night this year – I haven’t missed a single day yet.

What I’ve found is that moment of reflection has trickled into other moments of my day. I find myself reflecting on the things I’m about say, write or put out into the world. And I ask myself, “Is this necessary? Is it helpful? Is it uplifting? Or am I just adding noise?”

I find myself being more mindful about the content that I consume and where I choose to spend my energy.

I ask myself if the things that I do are in alignment with my design or deflect from it? Am I living in flow with my energy or creating unnecessary stress from not being in flow with it?

When people talk about stress management, of course, the massages are great, the manis and pedis are fun, but at the end of the day, the reasons why you're stressed are still there.

Some of those things we have control over, and some of the things that we don't, but when we align to our energetic selves, our Human Design, it’s a meaningful, insightful, and impactful way of understanding our stress, and how we can best manage it.

Are you working against yourself, or are you functioning with how your energy flows?

You can learn more about the fundamentals of Human Design, including your Type, Strategy and Authority in my Human Design Essentials self-study program.

If you want to learn about your personal Human Design, you can order a Human Design Playbook, which is how I do Human Design Readings.

I’ll have links to both, as well as everything I’ve referenced in this episode on the show notes at www.livefablife.com/291 for Episode 291.

Our time this week has come to a close, so I’ll end here with thanks and appreciation to you for listening. I'll see you right back here again next time - bye for now!